OUR PERSONAL SPACE

    Before the onset of our present pandemic, I always respected one’s privacy. Yet, there were often occasions when we shook hands, hugged each other, and even kissed.  Now, with a serious need to protect ourselves and each other, we have the coronavirus national guidelines for America. They are especially important. They provide us with the opportunity to save our lives and those we love. Now, each of us is faced with virtually separating ourselves from each other. We refer to it as social distancing. Such behavior emphasizes our concept of privacy.

    I recall that our privacy also includes protecting our personal space. In that sense, we still need to understand that regardless of social distancing, we no longer must be so concerned about, so to speak, breaking our personal space.  I’m talking about those times you might remember. We do not like to have someone stand so close to us that we smell one’s breath or perfume.  I remember being asked to avoid using fragrances when seated in an audience because other persons may have allergies to which they could be sensitive. Maintaining our personal space can also protect us from stress or possible aggression.

    As long as we maintain our isolation the way it is, we can be comforted to know we are in charge of ourselves. We can find ways to enjoy our privacy and not succumb to stress. Yes, television and computer technology can be a vicarious pleasure and even contact each other. Remember,

“AN OUNCE OF PREVENTION IS WORTH A POUND OF CURE”

   

A NECESSARY SYSTEM

    I remember when I was a child, I learned very quickly each day that it was important to wash my hands and face and brush my teeth. When I ate breakfast, lunch and dinner, I learned to use the correct utensils.  I never considered those activities as rules. I learned to say please and thank you or excuse me as the appropriate occasion arose. When I went to school, the teacher made it clear there was to be no talking in the classroom unless you raised your hand and got permission. Somehow, as time went on, I found that I wasn’t feeling that these behaviors were laws. But, eventually I came to realize that there are laws everyone is obligated to obey.

 

    So, I ask myself what does the word law mean?   Law is commonly understood as a system of rules that are created and enforced through social or governmental institutions to control conduct.  Words for “law” generally mean etymologically “what is right”.  Again, etymologically, “something straight,” “upright”, “true”, “legally right”, “put in place”, or proper.  A point to be made is that a law is set in place not to be excused or ignored.  Laws exist for good reason in that they can help to protect people from horrible acts such as murder or rape. In a milder sense, laws can help humans protect them from others who can steal or cheat.

    The history of law is closely related to the changes in civilizations.  Ancient Egyptian law as far back as 3000 BC was characterized by tradition, rhetorical speech and social equality.  In the 22^nd century BC, the Sumerian ruler Ur-Nammu had formulated a first law code.  Around 1760 BC, King Hammurabi developed Babylonian law that he codified and inscribed it in stone.  The Old Testament dated back to 1270 BC took the form of moral imperatives as recommendations for a good society.  The small Greek city- state ancient Athens, about the 8^th century BC was the first society to be based on the broad inclusion of its citizenry.  However, Athens had no legal science or single word for “law”.  Rather it relied on the three-way distinction between divine law, human decree, and custom.  However, Ancient Greek Law contained major constitutional innovations in the development of democracy.  Roman law was influenced by Greek philosophy and developed more detailed adaptations to cope with the changing social conditions by establishing new codifications of the law.  During the Middle Ages Roman law was rediscovered around the 11^th century when medieval legal scholars began to research Roman codes and adapt their concepts to canon law, giving birth to the seeds which medieval England, royal courts developed as common law.

    It seems that without law and order civilizations would crumble. Yet, laws (rules or regulations) can sometimes smother or restrain freedom if implemented without fair deliberations. Every person has a responsibility to acknowledge and respect law and order. We live in a world today that offers tremendous advances in technology, science and medicine.   Confirming, accepting and obeying laws gives us an opportunity to enjoy these benefits.                                                                                  

A COMPARISON

CONVICTION AND BELIEF

    Maybe, after an examination of these two words we might have a better understanding of how they are used.  They have become part of our frequent conversations.  They appear similar in meaning.  Yet, at times, they convey a distinct difference.  A belief is a mental claim as truth regardless of supporting or contrary empirical evidence. It is an opinion that to the one who expresses it perceives it with unconditional acceptance. The origin of belief is from the old English, geleafa (faith), from West Germanic ga-laubon “to hold dear, esteem, trust”.  The final word was altered in the 15^th century to believe.

Conviction was derived from Anglo-French “convicter” or Latin “convictus” possibly the act of convincing.    A conviction is when a person has listened to or been convinced of or from supported information.  A person who expresses a conviction has taken into consideration valid information that tends to confirm one’s viewpoint. Yes, both terms run close parallels in meaning but which one would you use to reflect more integrity?

    After all, one who has integrity reflects the quality or state of being complete, unimpaired, upright, and honest.  It appears that everyone is entitled to one’s own beliefs and convictions.  However, an open mind will allow anyone to have compassion, patience, empathy and a willingness to give an ear to another’s view or outlook.

      

                                   FLAVOR OF CONVERSATION

    There probably was an occasion where we have had friendly discussions and a sarcastic remark was expressed.  We really don’t appreciate it and no matter to whom it was said it may have left an uncomfortable feeling. That’s what sarcasm does. I decided to do some research and found that a sarcastic remark can inadvertently become what some people perceive as humorous.  But, it really isn’t funny. It’s defined as an expression to make someone look or feel foolish.  It has a flavor of condescension.   For examples: When something bad happens the comment is, “That’s just what you needed today “, or, When you expected something to happen, especially after warning someone about it, “Well, what a surprise!” and when your sister spills ketchup on her blouse, “the stain makes your cheeks look rosy!” or, when someone does something wrong, you say, “Very good! Well done!”

    When we speak of sarcasm, we are really referring to the term sardonic or sardonicism, that is a sardonic remark that is “disdainfully or skeptically humorous “or “derisively mocking.” The concept of and the origin of sardonicism is uncertain.  But, it stems from the Mediterranean island of Sardinia. The 10^thcentury Byzantine Greek encyclopedia “Suda” traces the word’s earliest roots to the notion of grinning in the face of danger, or curling one’s lips back at evil.  

    Professionals in psychology and related fields have for many years considered sarcasm as negative behavior. They refer to it to be a maladaptive coping mechanism for those with unresolved anger or frustration.  Psychologist Clifford N. Lazarus considers sarcasm as “hostility disguised as humor.” Although an occasional sarcastic comment may enliven a conversation, he suggests that too frequent use of sarcasm can tend to “overwhelm the emotional flavor of any conversation.”

How well do we help making conversations comfortable for each other?

OUTLIER

    Outlier usually refers to an extreme deviation from a particular measurement.  In statistics, an outlier is a distribution point such as a number or a score that is much further away from any other distribution points.  Outliers are extreme values that deviate from other observations which may be due to variability in measuring or it may indicate experimental error; the latter re sometimes excluded from the set of data.  In such cases, an outlier can cause serious problems in statistical analyses.  However, sometimes, outliers may indicate something scientifically interesting.

    So, how do we come to use the word outlier other than to scientific measurement? Outlier (which is pronounced simply “out-ly-er” although it looks vaguely French) was originally, when it appeared in English in the early 17^th century, simply another word for “outsider”, even nonconformist or even eccentric.  It has come to mean a person or thing situated away or detached from the main body or system; a person or thing differing from all other members of a group.

    Given the above explanation of an outlier, we might notice that among our relationships with other people we have met or know of outliers.  They are often very interesting people.  I have found them very bright, intelligent and are very successful in many fields of endeavor, be they entrepreneurs, doctors, attorneys, academicians, managers, or people in all kinds of work. There are certainly many who have yet to use their individuality as outliers and are young people still of school age who probably appear somewhat unique in their behavior.  But maybe, they will self-actualize and become very successful.  Conforming to expectations of society is a challenge for youngsters growing up. 

    Sometimes, as children or adult outliers make wonderful contributions in life and need to be appreciated more for their uniqueness.   It’s very important to keep in mind that those of us in our senior years have a responsibility to offer mentorship to those who are younger.  Our love and understanding of them can go a long way in enhancing kindness and better human relationships.

HISTORY OF THE BAHAMAS

 

     I came to south Florida in 1952.  And yes, I have lived through every hurricane that hit the Treasure Coast which included Miami-Dade, Broward and Palm Beach counties.  So, as many of us who experienced them, my family and I have managed many good years living here.  Nevertheless, when those storms came, we prepared for them. It was quite an endurance test for survival.  But you know what?  It wasn’t the end of our world and we, fortunately, had minimal losses even without air conditioning and electricity.  But, needless to say, we are very thankful but not everyone has been that lucky.  Living here in the mecca of tourism we have taken advantage of many trips to Disney World and cruises to Europe and the Caribbean.

    BUT! On September 1, 2019, the eye of Hurricane Dorian made landfall on the Abaco Islands with maximum sustained winds of 185 mph, making it the strongest hurricane on record to affect the Bahamas.  September 2, the eye of Dorian moved over the eastern end of Grand Bahama Island and drifted across the island wreaking devastation.  By Wednesday, September 12 weather forecasts indicated it was moving up the Florida coast.  I remember our anxiety was beginning to diminish but not eliminated.  As the air began to clear and I heard the news of the tragedy in the Bahamas, I couldn’t help but reminisce of our past visits to the Bahamas and felt sadness of what had happened there.

    When we used to take a few cruises to the Bahamas over the years, we enjoyed the amenities of the cruises as well as the sights of the islands but, I never really knew much about the history of the islands.  My research really has helped me realize why Dorian has left such damaged conditions to the Bahamas. It’s important to understand that the Bahamas, an archipelago is an ecological haven spreading over 100,000 square miles of ocean.  It includes beautiful breathtaking islands.

    The name Bahamas is of Lucayan or Arawakan derivation attributable to the early indigenous people who occupied the islands in the first millennium A.D.  Some historians believe the term is from the Spanish “bajamar” meaning “shallow water”.  The Bahamas however, occupy a unique position as a gateway to the Gulf of Mexico, the Caribbean Sea and South America.  

    Recorded history of the Bahamas began when on October 12, 1492, Christopher Columbus, sailing from Spain, landed on the Lucayan island called Guanabana later named San Salvador.  Eventually, the Spanish, finding no gold, held little interest in the Bahamas and abandoned them except as a source of slave labor. For many years, historians believed the Bahamas was not colonized.  However, recent studies show that by the 17^th century, groups from Spain, France, Britain and the Netherlands had made attempts to settle there.  Over the years, the Bahamians faced a multitude of vicissitudes.  There were conflicts with the Spanish over salvations from shipwrecks.  Privateers and pirates competed for positions of profit or control.  Slavery ended August 1, 1834.  The Bahamas remained a British Crown Colony until becoming independent as a Commonwealth Realm in 1973.  A high rate of unemployment and subsequent poverty is often attributed to a lack of economic diversity in the Bahamas. Sixty percent of the country’s GDP (Gross Domestic Product) stems from tourism, at times, weakened due to political and economic instability.  We can see how terrible it is for the Bahamians to recuperate from such a storm.

    

 

      

TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NO ONE

 

    When we are born, immediately time begins to pass and we are bombarded with a myriad of stimuli.   Usually, all of our sense modalities are activated.  We can see, touch, taste, smell and feel.  It is now at this moment that we start to learn.  As a matter of fact, we don’t have to do anything because whoever is our caregiver will try to meet our needs.   However, we use our sense modalities as we become aware of what’s happening to us. It doesn’t take long for us to use them.   Again, as time moves on, we become more alert as to what is comfortable to us. Our learning is very rapid and we start to react by accepting or rejecting what is provided to us.  In essence, this short paragraph makes it sound like our early learning is very simple.  But it isn’t!  Each of us perceives the world from different viewpoints and we learn to behave in a variety of ways.  It is really remarkable how well so many of us learn to adapt to our environment.  I guess we can give some credit to our significant others who tried to lead or guide us in the right direction.  Although, our own insights have helped us too.  
    
    Nevertheless, as time has gone on, each of us has learned a variety of behaviors, some of which have made life easier or perhaps difficult. There is one behavior, in particular, I have learned over time which has been helpful and yet, very challenging. 

    Learning how to wait seems easy but, it just doesn’t happen without our being conscious about something we anticipate.  Waiting is the act of staying in one place or remaining still in expectation of something.  It’s really all about time and what we want may not be in the present.  So, it occurs in the future and requires one to have some degree of patience. It appears that waiting and patience are really not mutually separate concepts.

    Remember when we were children and we wanted an ice cream cone and mother said to wait until after dinner?  Boy!  That became a problem to wait and required patience.  Yes, and that necessitated the ability to not only wait but to also endure a delay in our desire for immediate gratification.  For some of us as we matured and became adults, that delay became easier to handle.  Life teaches us to face many conditions as we get older that are challenges to our patience and we often find it difficult to accept or overcome.  But fortunately, most of us have learned to cope well.  Some of us find it more difficult to face disappointments or adversities such as a job loss, illness and our physical or mental disabilities.  If we learned through life how to wait and use patience, we find our senior years more comfortable.